Exposing the heart of all that matters

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In my last post, I lamented about how God is asking me to surrender my perfectionism. It turns out that I am not really a perfectionist, rather perfectionism is a shield I built to ward off feelings of shame when I’m just being me.

Using my experience at the Shattering Stigma conference, I told you that I wasn’t prepared. I gave my presentation without notes–without organizing my “stuff” into a presentable and tidy speech with bullet points.

I lied (without realizing it).

I was prepared. I was prepared because I had prayed, sought words and ideas through Scripture, and heard the voice of the Holy Spirit in my heart. God had prepared my heart for the day. I gave a presentation from my heart but my trust was fully immersed in notes that didn’t exist. If God lives in my heart, then I can trust God will shine through me–not my notes. Or PowerPoint. Or anything else I squeeze nice and neat into a box.

This is what I was trying to say but failed to make clear that point. I apologize.

But guess what? While this is a very valuable lesson in spiritual growth for me and an incredible step in my relationship with Christ, none of this is about me.

Did you catch the platform upon which God was teaching me? Shattering Stigma with Stories: Mental Health and the Church. He placed me with a group of other people at an event where the whole point is to be 100% vulnerable, raw, and transparent about how not perfect life is.

This conference was not about me and losing my shield of perfectionism. This conference was about shattering the stigma that shields the community from connecting with those living with mental illness. 

  • This day was about the Allen family bravely sharing their story about Andrew, a son, grandson, brother, and brother-in-law who has been battling bipolar disorder since he was in the eighth grade.Allen Family
  • This day was about a highly educated professional, Dr. Rand Michael, revealing that no amount of education or skill will ever prepare us for the beauty, challenges, and lessons we’ll experience with mental illness. Dr. Michael
  • This day was about a wife, Kelcey, living with both bipolar and schizoaffective disorder, describing how her husband has loved her “in sickness” through psychosis, mania, and suicide attempts (not because she wanted to die but because voices instructed her to).IMG_20150530_134724867_HDR (1)
  • This day was about an aunt, Tara, with nieces who suffer severe mental illnesses and how loving them fiercely wasn’t enough to make them all better.
  • This day was about moms, Tess and Casey, who battle depression and anxiety while learning how to best love their kids and navigate the journey of raising families.

Every single story was raw in honesty and emotion about why mental illness is hard and how we’ve experienced the stigma from our communities. Every single story showed what healing looks like. Every single story showed how God has made himself known in the battle despite the lack of confidence we and/or our families have felt in our journeys.

Loving God is hard when you live with the challenges of mental illness because it’s hard to know if He’s really there. Yet every story showed that it’s through love of people that God makes himself most obviously present. 

Stigmas and stereotypes act as protective barriers against understanding people who are difficult to love. For God, no one is too hard to love. We have to break down the barriers to love like God. In doing so, we show the love of God to people who believe they don’t matter. Love is the heart of all that matters.

In the name of Jesus and for the sake of shattering stigma, I proudly present to you my imperfect, note-free shattering stigma story:

*Conference photos courtesy of Sovann Pen; special thanks to my sister-friend Kelcey Rockhold for recording my talk.

9 thoughts on “Exposing the heart of all that matters

  1. Linda Kruschke

    I wish I had known about this conference more than the day before. Thanks for sharing your story. I will listen to it later, but wanted to say what a wonderful and brave post this is.

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    1. Leanne Post author

      Linda, thank you so much! We’re still figuring how to market the conference well. There is another one in October at Lake Grove Presbyterian! More details to come!

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  2. Amy

    Leanne- that was awesome! I don’t know what to say other than I am proud of you and you doing a great job helping yourself and others. I am guilty of saying the exact thing about people needing to eat a burger. I will try to never say that again.

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    1. Leanne Post author

      Amy, thank you so much. And it’s okay, I forgive you. Now you know and can help others know when you hear them say it. <3 *hugs*

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  3. Molly McNab

    It was so great to see you Saturday and how well you and God did with that talk. You are living the miracle, and I am so proud of how far you’ve come from when I met you last October! So glad to be your friend now!

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    1. Leanne Post author

      Thank you so much, Molly. You are so encouraging! So glad to have you as a brand new friend. Looking forward to getting to know you more. 🙂

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  4. Lisa

    You are a warrior, hands down….end of story. I even looked up the definition and thesaurus all I see is you. You put on the armor of God’s word and that is what it takes and remembering that Jesus goes with us, we can face down every enemy and rest assured that we will come out victorious. I’m so far from that walk, and seem to forget ( a lot ) but listening to you and others are encouraging and remind me I’m not alone, Your not alone, Love you Leanne

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    1. Leanne Post author

      Thanks, Lisa! Wow! You are a great and energetic cheerleader! Of course you are not alone, praise God. And while you may feel far from the walk, Jesus is right beside you. Has been the whole time. 🙂 <3

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